Proper tree-sitter 0.25 support

[ObserverOfTime]

This is an ongoing effort to update node-tree-sitter with the changes introduced in tree-sitter 0.25, and more:

• Track tree-sitter release branch
• Enable dependabot updates
• Use arm runners in CI
• Update Node versions
  • Drop tests on 18
  • Run tests on 24 & 25
• Enable trusted publishing
• Improve binding.gyp cflags
  • Add -fvisibility=hidden to the flags on Linux
  • Adapt std based on Node version
    • closes Install fails with Node v23, due to -std=c++17. #238
    • closes update bingind.gyp to compile with cpp20 #240
• Update the API to tree-sitter 0.25
  • closes Make a release with newer tree-sitter for ABI 15 support #244
  • closes The prebuild binaries are absent in version 0.25.0, which is a defect. #248
  • closes request publish new version #253
  • closes The prebuild binaries are missing for all architectures in NPM for v0.25.0 #256
  • closes Project Appears Unmaintained - Community Fork with Fixes Available #261
• Introduce QueryCursor class -> 0.26
• Improve errors, docs, types
  • closes Docs? #210
  • closes Fix helpful "Incompatible language version" error not showing #243
• Miscellaneous fixes
  • closes SyntaxNode .toJSON() does not behave as expected #246
  • closes Define type property on SyntaxNode subclasses with defineProperty #257
• Update dependencies
  • closes build(deps-dev): bump tmp from 0.2.3 to 0.2.4 #254
  • closes build(deps-dev): bump tar-fs from 2.1.1 to 2.1.4 #260
  • closes build(deps-dev): bump glob and node-gyp #263
  • closes build(deps): bump glob #264

[Abrifq]

Adapt std based on Node version

• closes Install fails with Node v23, due to -std=c++17. #238
• closes update bingind.gyp to compile with cpp20 #240

Hello!
I have made a PR about this part. Should I rebase it on your PR so you can merge it when you are free to review?

#240 already exists though?
Yeah, but I made it conditional via nodejs' config.gypi. This way if it needs another version bump, it should be easier.

[ObserverOfTime]

I already did that one.

[Abrifq]

I already did that one.

Ah ok, didn't notice. Have a nice day then!

[ObserverOfTime]

Basically ready. Just needs tests for the progress callbacks, which I'm too lazy to add.

The Language methods and the QueryCursor class will have to wait till the next release.

@amaanq @maxbrunsfeld